I have an amazing dad who is always there for us—helpful, dependable, and kind. He’s been a constant support throughout my life and continues to help whenever we need him.
He’s incredibly handy. He helped build our screened-in porch, assisted with our DIY Murphy bed, and even made a cupcake tower for my baby shower. He can fix nearly any car problem, too. If something’s bothering me, I can call him and he always answers. He and my husband—who is also a fantastic dad—are close friends and enjoy spending time together.
My husband is a wonderful father as well—the perfect dad for our four children and the best husband. I asked him what he likes to hear as a dad and what phrases drive him crazy, and I’m sharing his answers here.
1. What you think matters more than what you say. He doesn’t like the looks people give when he brings the kids to places like a car dealership. Those looks suggest, “What are kids doing here?” even when the kids are well behaved. He takes them to learn and explore—kids are naturally curious: they like to touch things, ask questions, and observe. My dad does the same—our kids love tagging along to the dealership, the dump, or for rides in his truck or Mustang. So please don’t make parents feel unwelcome when they bring children to teach them life lessons. It’s part of raising curious, capable kids.
2. “Are you babysitting today?” This question frustrates both my mom and me. Dads aren’t babysitting their own children—these are their kids too. The term implies caregiving is a temporary favor rather than an everyday responsibility and joy.
3. “You have your hands full today.” My husband often laughs and points out that this isn’t just “today”—this is his life, and he enjoys it. Being with the kids isn’t a burden for him; it’s a pleasure. Whether he’s taking them to the “tool store” (what the kids call the hardware store) or to look at cars, he values one-on-one time and family moments. As he says, anytime he can be with our kids is a good day.
Things you should say to a dad:
1. “I appreciate you.” Everyone wants to feel appreciated. Hearing appreciation confirms that their efforts matter to the family.
2. “You are a great dad.” This reassurance means a lot, especially since moms often receive more overt praise for parenting. Dads play an equal role in raising children, and a simple compliment recognizing that effort goes a long way.
3. “It’s nice to see a dad with their kids.” When strangers say this, it resonates—dads are important positive male role models. Today’s fathers are more involved than ever: they do more than provide financially; they actively parent, help, and enjoy time with their children. My husband points out that having children is something both parents want and work toward together. Parenting is a shared role, not just the mother’s responsibility.
So today, tell your dad or husband thank you for being the great parent they are. I’m fortunate to be surrounded by wonderful dads and couldn’t be happier.
Here are some photos of our kids with my husband, my dad, and my father-in-law:
